How to honor those we have lost

In Memoriam

While the fashion at the Emmy’s is of course our favorite topic of discussion, there was another subject garnering a lot of attention in the press; the “in memoriam” segment.  As mega gleeks, we were totally on board with the decision to highlight Cory Monteith, among other actors lost this past year. However, we can definitely see the other side of the argument. This is the first year they’ve given special attention to certain actors, and it makes us wonder how they decided who to highlight. If I knew one of the others who had passed, I might be a little miffed that my loved one didn’t seem to earn the same time and attention.

After some thought, we’ve decided that what it comes down to is that there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. Everyone responds to death in different ways and there’s no formula to follow. They decided to take a step in a new direction and do something different, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

In the same breath, there’s no right or wrong way to honor lost loved ones at your wedding. Some choose to incorporate them in many ways throughout the entire day, while others may choose keep it to a simple statement on the programs. Again, there’s no right or wrong here! For those of you who may be struggling to choose the way that’s right for you, we’ve highlighted some special, unique ways below.

1)      Use something of theirs at the wedding: Grandpa’s hankie could be the perfect thing to dry your happy, wedding day tears. Or maybe Grandma has an antique set of toasting flutes for the reception speeches? Think outside the box and this can be a nice, quiet way that you can honor their memory.

2)      Have a photo table: Depending on the space you have available, this could be a great way to make your loved ones a part of your big day. It’s simple and sweet, you don’t need to say anything, just having their photos there for your guests to view will speak volumes.

3)      Make them a part of your favors: Charitable donations are the hot, new thing in wedding favors. Let’s face it, most favors get lost or thrown away anyways, so why not use that money for something good?! Make a donation in your guests’ name to a charity that supports the disease you lost a loved one too, for example. If you’d rather a more traditional favor though, think of something unique to that family member. Maybe the recipe for grandma’s favorite cookie, with the ingredients in a mason jar?

Most importantly, make sure you and your fiancé have a discussion together about what makes the both of you comfortable, and what you both feel is the most appropriate course of action. Remember, there’s no right or wrong, it’s all about making those people as close to you as possible on your big day!

How will you honor your loved ones who can not be with you at your wedding.


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