To stalk or not to stalk…
My wedding is less than a month away and I estimated to my fiancé last night that I am currently 70% crazy. Here’s hoping I make it to July 23rd without reaching a full 100% crazy level. The end of the planning process is the worst part by far. You’re getting so excited for the day to come but you have 1,000,000 little things standing in your way. Gone are the days of fun cake tastings and trying on pretty dresses. Now I’m left with planning the seating chart (ugh), paying final deposits and waiting not so patiently for RSVPs to come back.
Learn from me, Flair friends, and send your invites out as soon as humanly acceptable. Give your guests plenty of time to send their responses, because you know you’re going to have a bunch that push past your deadline. At our deadline we had no less than 20 unanswered RSVPs (a lot considering we only sent a little over 100 invites total). What is wrong with you people?? Don’t you know I’m going crazy enough without having to stalk you for a response? Don’t you know my wedding is going to be ultra fab? Why isn’t your immediate response YES YES and YES?? OK, tirade over.
When the time came to start stalking our respective guests my fiancé was hesitant. “Babe, do we have to?” “Babe, I know ____ is coming without asking.” Sigh, silly boys. It is 100% acceptable to reach out to your guests and ask them for a response. It shows an effort on your part. That way, if they miss the final deadline (i.e. the day you have to send final numbers to your venue) you can atleast say that you reached out and tried. It’s going to be hard to say no to someone who asks to come after that deadline but your hands will be tied and free of guilt. There can be no “Well I misread the date to respond” or any other excuse. We called you, you were slow, so now you have to miss out on the party of the century. OK, I might say it a bit nicer than that, it all depends on my crazy level at the time.
Stay sane summer 2011 brides, our day is almost here!!